This is a picture of my grandfather, Thomas Gordon, taken many years ago. It’s easy to see what his passion was!! Begonias. His memorial cup can still be won at the Ayr Show each year.
His passion was fired and fuelled by spending hours tending his precious plants, trying various combinations of soil, feeding, light position, and learning from every attempt to get the most beautiful large flower heads just at the right time each year. He learned too from other gardeners, and reading Gardening magazines and listening to Gardener’s World. Every year he learned more and his passion grew. There was no room for excuses when it came to his passion.
So what is your passion? What do you spend hours tending, trying various approaches, learning from every attempt, reading and listening about to gain greater skill in something that will bear fantastic flowers at the right time?
If you don’t really have a passion you might like to spend some time with an appropriate coach exploring your sense of meaning and purpose, or your sense of identity and values. I challenge you in this moment… Go find your passion, and when you do commit to it with enthusiasm and excitement… and then watch the flowers grow in your life.
The picture was taken in Italy on a walking holiday when after a shower of rain the muddy clay was an inch deep on the bottom of our boots. A friendly helper to the rescue!
I’ve been working as a professional coach for seven years and have come to recognise that when clients are ‘stuck’ a number of things may be happening!
(1) Being stuck is a feeling as well as a thought. What does being stuck feel like for you? What images does the word stuck conjure up for you?
(2) Being stuck may be completely unconscious.. I don’t know I’m stuck but I know things are not as I want them to be.
(3) Being stuck may be precisely what the feeling is immediately prior to a significant breakthrough. The stuckness can almost be like a labour pain (!!) – great when it’s over but part of the journey to success.
(4) Being stuck may be a feeling created by overload and the stress level of the situation simply leaves one unable to take the next step.
When recognised and confronted honestly (sometimes with another trusted person in a supportive but challenging environment) stuckness can be reframed from a Barrier to a Door just waiting to be pushed. The other side of stuckness is a great place to be!
So, what to do when you are stuck? Pay attention to the feeling and the thoughts associated with that feeling. Know that it is temporary – if you choose it to be. Know that one step at a time may be the way to go… and seek professional or informal support from someone who can be both supportive and challenging to help you get to the other side of stuckness. Someone who can be your best coach through the process.