Tag Archives: #resilience

Z is for Zebra

Of course it is!  Robert M Sapolsky got our attention with regard to Zebras when he wrote his classic book “Why Zebras don’t get Ulcers.”  We know that living in a constant state of stress is harmful for us.  That is why it is critical that we take seriously our need to actively and frequently find ways to give ourselves respite from the pressures of daily life in order to sustain our health and mental well-being, even if that is only for short bursts of time.

It is my strong belief that in order to serve others, including our family members and those we have contact with through work, or through other aspects of our lives, that is best done by looking after our own health and well-being..

Z is also for The End.  Although for me Endings are often an opportunity to begin again.  So either go right back to A or find another activity to continue your resilience journey.

Affirmation: “An end is just a beginning with a different name.  The resilience journey continues.”

Y is for You

Y is for YOU and with this post comes an Invitation with your name on it.  Tomorrow sees Day 26 of the Resilience Alphabet and the last letter of the alphabet. However, your personal resilience and wellbeing will be important long after this Alphabet ends.

Take steps today to decide on your plan of action going forward.   Then tell someone what you intend to do as a mechanism for building accountability for your intentions.

And finally, more than anything believe that you are worth the effort!   Make the affirmation opposite something you say to yourself every day for the next 26 days.

Affirmation: “My health and wellbeing matters to me and I will make the time to do the things that nurture and support my wellbeing.”

X is for X-ray

If you’ve been following this Resilience Alphabet daily you will now have a lot of practical ideas to support your personal resilience if you do them!

Today is the day to Stop and like an x-ray, take a careful look under the surface.  Perhaps these four questions will help you to do so.  They are best answered with pen and paper… but in your head will do!

On a scale of 1-10, how well am I looking after Myself?

What could I do more of?

What could I do less of?

What one activity, if done daily, would make the biggest difference to my own resilience and well-being?

When you have some answers – Go do it!

Affirmation: “I am committing to prioritising my personal resilience and taking action to nurture my wellbeing ”

W is for Walk

Whether you walk in the woods, in your garden, or round your house today is the day for taking a walk and as you do so engage with all of your senses: what do you see or notice; what do you hear; how do you feel or what can you touch; what can you smell; and can you taste anything?

Walking is more natural to us than sitting for long periods.  There is something both rhythmic and soothing about the motion, that leaves us feeling good and relaxed.  If for any physical reason you are unable to walk, look out your window and imagine that walk using all of your senses, or google ‘woodland’, or check out the Facebook page of Max Out in the Lake District. Where will you go for a walk today?  Make it a priority.

Affirmation: “I am intentional about using all of my senses today as I walk to build my personal resilience.”

V is for Vulnerable

It’s 10 years since Brene Brown delivered her Ted Talk on Vulnerability and shared her wisdom around the importance of feeling and acknowledging our emotions, and not seeking to numb them.  It is still worth a listen 10 years later.

There is perhaps no other time in your life when you have felt more vulnerable and threatened more acutely than you have in 2020. Having the courage to own our vulnerability is the first step to embracing all it means to be human.

Brene Brown encourages us “to let ourselves be seen in all our vulnerability, to love with our whole hearts even though there is no guarantee, to practise gratitude and joy when we have doubts, and to belief that we are enough to get through this together.” (I have summarised)

Today acknowledge and embrace your vulnerability.  In essence it is vitality stripped bare and the very thing that enables us to embrace life.

Affirmation: “Today I am choosing to acknowledge my vulnerability and embrace life.”

U is for Uncertainty

All that I know and have read about uncertainty confirms my belief that we struggle with uncertainty.

Earlier this year, I was touched by a colleague’s post on social media written whilst sitting in an airport just as it was becoming obvious that flights would be grounded and travel would be grinding to a stop.  As she sat there with all the uncertainties of future life, she decided to write a list of what she remained certain of.   It was a very moving list and included things like, “I am certain I am loved”, “I am certain of my faith”, “I am certain this will pass”, and so the list went on.

So two actions today: give yourself a daily routine; and secondlytake pen and paper, find a quiet place and write down your personal “I remain certain…” list.

Affirmation: “Today I’m choosing to focus on what I am certain of.”

T is for Talk

Have you ever lived close enough to a baby to track the many achievements required in simply learning to talk, from these first one syllable sounds, testing out the musical range of babbling, through learning the word ‘no’, to telling you fantastic tales about the adventures of various toys.  It is a complex and effortful process accessing many parts of the brain.   To produce a phrase, about 100 muscles of the chest, neck, jaw, tongue and lips must work together.  That any of us can talk is one of life’s miracles.

I love this photo.  It symbolises all that is wonderful about being able to talk.  Getting lost in the moment with friends over a cup of tea, oblivious for a time to what is happening around us, or the challenges we might face. Today call one of your friends simply to chat.

Affirmation: “Talking is one of life’s gifts and I’m choosing to use it well.”

R is for Remember

A couple of days ago I looked out my two Passports (of the electronic kind) to look at the photos stored on them, some of which go back to 1979!   As we’ve looked at them some have made us laugh, some are pretty awful, and many of them have been reminders of days out and family holidays, significant events and people, and times of much fun and laughter.

To build your personal resilience today, go and pull out some random photos or a photo album from before the selfie took over, and revisit some of the times that you thought were significant enough to capture.  Go laugh at what’s fun, remember important moments, and revisit happy times.  Write a list of 10 people you have photos of and get in touch with them.  You have a vast store of happy memories – what a resource to revisit at this time. 

Affirmation: “I am accessing my memory to build resilience by remembering happy times!”

P is for Pause

It’s easy to get caught up in the humdrum of daily life where we simply move from one task to the next in an unrelenting effort to get everything done. 

Today in terms of personal resilience I want to encourage you to Pause: to take the time to consider how you have fared over the last week; to recognise those things you have done that have strengthened your resilience; and to recommit to making some of them a daily habit.

 In times of high stress, we need to practise habits of high self-care, as there are so many possibilities for having our energy and resources zapped!  So pause and set good habits for your self-care beginning today.

Affirmation: “I am learning the art of pausing often to check in with my wellbeing.”

O is for Open

In terms of personal resilience one of the best things we can do from a wellbeing point of view is be open about (1) how we are today, (2) what we are feeling, and (3) what our hopes are for going forward. 

This degree of openness comes more naturally to some than others.  Some will immediately go into thoughts when we ask them how they are feeling.  The answer to the feeling question is best described in one word. 

In my work with clients I often say of difficult thoughts and feelings that “it is better out than in”, that is, it is better to be expressed.  Whether that is releasing these thoughts and feelings through talking it out, writing it out, exercising it out or whatever.  Letting the steam out a little at a time is way more helpful than holding it in until it explodes.

Affirmation: “I am choosing to be open with those I know will help me reflect without judgement.”