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Resilience Alphabet – R is for Remember and Rainbow

I decided a couple of days ago to look out my two Passports (of the electronic kind) and have a look at the photos I have stored on them, some of which go back to 1979! As we’ve looked at them some have made us laugh, some are pretty awful, and many of them have been reminders of days out and family holidays, significant events and people, and times of much fun and laughter.

In terms of your personal resilience today I recommend you go and pull out some random photos or a photo album from some previous year, and revisit some of the times that you thought were significant enough to capture. Go laugh at what’s fun, remember important moments, and revisit happy times. It’s interesting that in the last 10 years the subject matter of photos has changed significantly with the development of mobile phones… go back before the pre-selfie age!

And if you are of the activist persuasion, write down 10 places you have been on holiday that you would like to revisit and create a bucket list; or write down 10 people you have photos of that you haven’t spoken to in a while and track them down. You have a vast store of happy memories – what a resource to revisit at this time.

It would have been odd to go through the Alphabet right now and not include Rainbow. The Rainbow has been a symbol of hope and promise to many from earliest times: a visible sign of hope beyond the storm, giving us reassurance that the storm will have an end point. Remember the Rainbow today, and as you do Remember too those who are not having a holiday today because they are working on our behalf.

Resilience Alphabet – Q is for Questions and Quote

On this weekend, when many will celebrate Easter, I wonder what questions are bubbling around for you. As we continue to think about personal resilience, I would encourage you to adopt the sentiment of this Quote. We have so many questions bombarding us at this time, fuelled perhaps by the media, or by our own concerns about our health and the safety of those we love, the security of our work, cancelled holidays, questions of faith, questions about the well-being of our children, and so the list goes on.

Quotes that work for me become something I return to, and ponder, and reflect on, and think about from different perspectives. During a particularly difficult period of time for me, I used the following quote as a touchstone: “All will be well, and all manner of things will be well.” (Julian of Norwich). It is a statement of belief, beyond the circumstances of life. I frequently remind myself of these words in times of uncertainty or challenge around the big topics of life.

Right now there are many things that remain unsolved in our hearts. The invitation in the quote above to “Live in the Question” rather than to seek to resolve all the uncertainties of this time is wise advice.

If I have a tip for today in terms of your personal resilience, go and find a quote from your faith or life’s philosophy that resonates for you right now and put it up in your kitchen or somewhere you will see as you pass through the day. And at least for the holiday weekend, go and simply live in the midst of all the questions you may have right now, there will be time for answers on another day. This too will pass… and as always Stay Safe.

Resilience Alphabet – P is for Pause and Praise

All over the country last night, as has become a national habit, people were clapping for those who are seeking to look after us in many ways during this time. As in all times of crisis, there are many hidden heroes and in your own way you may be one of them, quietly getting on with something important, and something that needs to be done.

Today in terms of personal resilience I want to encourage you to Pause for a different reason: to take the time to consider how you have fared over the last three weeks; to recognise those things you have done that have strengthened your resilience and to recommit to making some of them a daily habit. In times of high stress, we need to practise habits of high self-care, as there are so many possibilities for having our energy and resources zapped! So pause and form a new commitment to what you know enables you to take a break from all that is happening.

And turning to the second word, I wonder how readily you give praise, and how readily you receive praise. Today’s mission is to find or better still create opportunities to say thank you to the many people who are making your life brighter during these times when we are all adjusting to new ways of living our life. Maybe you can even set yourself a target of 5 or 10 people you want to acknowledge and thank for how they are making a difference to you during this time.

So as you Pause and set good habits for your self-care, and seek opportunities to praise and thank people for a jobs large and small, be kind to your too and as always Stay Safe.

Resilience Alphabet – O is for Openness

If I had been asked to write an article called “A week in the life of an Executive Coach” a few weeks ago, I imagine it would have been very different to the one I would write if I were to focus on the last three weeks. The scale of the challenges clients are facing, the speed of change, and the need to make critical decisions with wide-ranging consequences have never been experienced by most of us in our lifetime.

Some of you will know that I am accredited in Conversational Intelligence®, the work of Judith Glaser, which looks amongst other things at how we build trust as human beings through the openness and transparency of our conversations. That work has never been more relevant than it is today.

In terms of personal resilience one of the best things we can do right now from a well-being point of view is be open about (1) how we are today, (2) what we are feeling, and (3) what our hopes and plans are for going forward. This degree of openness comes more naturally to some than others. Some will immediately go into thoughts when we ask them how they are feeling. The answer to the feeling question is best described in one word. If we spent just a fraction of the time we spend on media input on being open with each other and ourselves we would release some of the personal pressure we are all feeling.

In my work with clients I often say of difficult thoughts and feelings that “it is better out than in”, that is, it is better to be expressed. Whether that is releasing these thoughts and feelings through talking it out, writing it out, exercising it out or whatever. Letting the steam out a little at a time is way more helpful than holding it in until it explodes.

It is not brave to ignore the elephant of fear and threat that is in the room. Courage is acknowledging it and working together to navigate the current situation in spite of it. Take care today to ensure that as you listen to the feelings of others, you are open about what you feel too. Be open, and as always stay safe.